Well, I don't want to speak for other people (especially that I may well be over- or mis-interpreting what they posted), but I can say that in my less socially clued-in days, I was full of "why not me?" woe when I saw other people of equal or lesser talent being showered with unsolicited gifts and love. It's more than a little painful to look back at what a self-absorbed ninny I was -- of course I wasn't getting anything, because I wasn't giving anything!
Mind, I haven't totally conquered that monster yet. There's a part of me that's desperately envious of folks who are born with the social know-how and/or charisma and/or outright talent that inspires affection and admiration in other people, and there's another part of me that longs to possess the kind of magnetism where people want to give me gifts even though I haven't done anything to earn them, and there's yet another part of me that sometimes becomes unreasonably resentful of other people's popularity (I don't expect reciprocation or even acknowledgment of unsolicited gifts, but there are times when I'm not above feeling sorry for myself because my fics apparently aren't memorable enough to merit recs or awards, and I have to play the Smiths's "You Just Haven't Earned It Yet Baby" over and over again on the stereo until I cluebat myself back into functioning as a sensible person).
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Mind, I haven't totally conquered that monster yet. There's a part of me that's desperately envious of folks who are born with the social know-how and/or charisma and/or outright talent that inspires affection and admiration in other people, and there's another part of me that longs to possess the kind of magnetism where people want to give me gifts even though I haven't done anything to earn them, and there's yet another part of me that sometimes becomes unreasonably resentful of other people's popularity (I don't expect reciprocation or even acknowledgment of unsolicited gifts, but there are times when I'm not above feeling sorry for myself because my fics apparently aren't memorable enough to merit recs or awards, and I have to play the Smiths's "You Just Haven't Earned It Yet Baby" over and over again on the stereo until I cluebat myself back into functioning as a sensible person).