I've not been in this bit of fandom long enough to experience it first hand, but in RL...the ones who demand attention and gift giving are the ones it is no fun to give to. I like to spring gifts on people at unexpected times...just to say, hey I was thinking of you when I saw this. But don't like the "Obligation" of it...that is what family is for!

As for stories...I'm also new at that as far as fanfic goes and am amazed when people comment. In RL writing, you rarely ever get the kind of feedback you get in here...I've been published in magazines and can imagine that 100's of people have read my stuff, but I'll never know...here, I get a pretty good idea--for either good or bad!